The death of a loved one is often the beginning of what can be a difficult period for those left behind. It most likely will be the most grievous and hardest experience you will face. In addition to the obvious emotional tolls placed on you, there are many decisions that need to be made and responsibilities that must be dealt with that can seem overwhelming.

Where to begin

When a loved one passes, you should notify the following
  • Emergency services 911 (if death occurs at home)
  • The attending nurse (if you are present when a loved one passes away in a hospital, nursing facility or is under hospice care)
  • Loved ones, family and friends
  • The deceased’s parish priest
  • An appropriate funeral home

Although priorities will vary, you will want to take steps to ensure that your loved one’s end-of-life wishes and rites are fulfilled, including those specific to our Catholic teachings. Together, these undertakings and final acts of faith not only have practical value, they provide comfort, peace of mind, and the opportunity for friends and family to celebrate the life of the departed while affirming our belief in the everlasting life to come.

Arrangements may include

Meeting with Funeral Home Representatives to Discuss


  • Times and dates for the wake and any on-site services
  • Burial options and preparation of the remains
  • If burial plot was purchased prior to death, bring your burial certificate
  • Securing death certificates
  • Attire of the deceased for the funeral
  • Eulogies
  • Obituary notices
  • Details such as floral arrangements, memorial folders, prayer cards, guest book, charitable donation requests, transportation to and from church, funeral home and cemetery
  • Handicap accommodations or other special requirements

Meeting with a Parish Priest or Pastoral Staff to Discuss


  • Confirmation of the dates and times of the funeral rite, mass and/or committal service
  • Details of the funeral mass/service
  • Burial place protocols

Meeting with your Catholic Cemeteries Staff to Discuss


  • Confirmation of pre-planned burial arrangements; please bring the burial certificate with you
  • Contacting your cemetery of choice if you need to select and purchase a burial rite
  • Details of any services that will be held at the time of the committal

Please feel free to contact us with any questions or concerns at any time at 800-594-4980. Whether you own a burial rite or need to purchase one, we are here to help you.

Recognizing that the death of a loved one and dealing with the many responsibilities involved can be extremely demanding and exhausting, it is very important that the surviving family members take steps to safeguard their own mental and physical well-being. These may include

  • Making sure you don’t miss meals or neglect food and drink altogether
  • Getting sufficient rest
  • Spending time with friends and family
  • Accepting offers of help
  • Securing professional assistance if needed
  • Not attempting to “do it all” — Deal with meaningful tasks and delegate less important ones to others
  • Taking advantage of support groups provided by your church or community

We will be happy to answer questions, review costs and offer faith-based guidance.  Simply call 800-594-4980.

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